Hello all. It's Kay here. Today I'm delighted to welcome Elizabeth Morris from Carvaka Sex Toys to the BB's site to give us a 'Users Guide' to anal play. Over to you Elizabeth...
Anal play is a subject that we get asked about all the time and tends to provoke excitement and confusion in equal measure. Anyone with an interest in all things erotic will likely have at least considered anal play either alone or with a partner. But getting started can be a bit of a minefield. So, we thought we’d do this “quick start guide” with all you need to know.
What is Anal Play?
Anal play is any sexual activity that involves stimulating the anus (entrance to the bum) and/or the rectal passage, either in men or women. While anal play typically involves penetration, it need not. For example, rimming or performing a “rim job” is when you lick your partner’s anus. The rusty trombone is when you reach around and perform a hand-job while simultaneously rimming. Anal play can be done alone or with a partner.
Why is it Enjoyable?
In both men and women, the anus is an area rich in nerve endings and hence stimulating with a tongue for example is pleasurable even if no penetration is involved. In women, the rectal wall and the vaginal wall are very close so when anally penetrated, pressure is put on the back vaginal wall which creates a pleasure sensation. If also vaginally penetrated (double penetration) the vagina will feel tighter which feels great both for the lady and the guy penetrating. Anal stimulation when coupled with clitoral stimulation eg receiving oral sex with a butt plug inserted will lead to more intense orgasms.
In men, anal penetration is all about stimulating the prostate gland aka the P-Spot. For a detailed explanation on this see our guide to prostate massaging. In short, stimulating the prostate is thoroughly pleasurable for men and can, in and of itself, lead to orgasm but when coupled with penis stimulation, it can create far more intense climaxes eg orgasming while having anal beads inserted.
Do I need to Prepare for it?
“Fail to prepare, prepare to fail” as the saying goes, is relevant for all things anal. While spontaneity is great, a little prep’ work will go a long way to enhancing your anal experience. If you know you will be having anal sex later in the day, it is best to keep food to light meals. Try to empty your bowels in advance and ideally take a quick shower straight after to clean the area. You could consider also using an anal douche which gives the area a rinse clean and leaves it sparkling in perfect readiness for your anal escapades!
Remember that the anus is not self-lubricating, unlike the vagina for example, so lube, lube and more lube is the recommendation here. While any lube will help, try to get a thicker consistency anal lube as will last longer during play than a water-based one for example.
To get started, consider just adding the tip of your finger into a well lubricated anus during masturbation sessions just to feel your way in, literally. As you get more comfortable, consider adding a partner and/or some toys to facilitate a deeper penetration.
Are there Anal Specific Sex Toys?
Yes, there are a whole host of sex toys on the market designed to make anal play more enjoyable. Men can choose from a vast array of prostate massagers and vibrators specifically designed to drench their prostates in pleasure. Women interested in exploring double penetration can choose from an array of double penetration vibrators. Butt plugs and anal beads are perfect for men and women alike and are designed to stay in place while you do other enjoyable things such as oral sex for example. While when we think on anally penetrating a man, we tend to think of gay men, this isn’t strictly accurate. Straight men can be penetrated by a woman using a strapondildo in an act known as pegging. This really mixes things up in a straight relationship with a boring sex life by adding a whole new dimension to sex. Of course women can chose from a range of strapon dildos which can be used on men or women, anally or vaginally as per preference. As mentioned above, regardless of the anal play that you are going to partake in, always remember plenty of lube.
OK, that’s it, I hope I have given you food for thought and enough to commence your anal adventures! Thanks for reading. Finally I have included a video guide below to butt plugs which should also be of some interest!
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Elizabeth Morris holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Biology and is the resident content marketing manager @ Carvaka. Carvaka Sex Toys is an online retailer which specializes in adult toys and specifically Vibrators.
Many thanks Elizabeth! Much to think about there.