Please welcome Sierra Cartwright to the Brit Babes' blog today!
Why Do I Write Books With BDSM Elements?
There’s nothing I love more than a strong, heroic alpha male. And add in a little edge of danger for spice and I’m a goner.
I’ve been writing books with strong men since my early days at Harlequin/Silhouette, but now, my sex scenes don’t get great big X marks through them!
To me, BDSM isn’t about adding kink to a book. My heroes understand what BDSM and they respect the lifestyle (though they do have varying degrees of what they expect from the heroine). To me, it’s a part of who he is. He wouldn’t be the same man if the BDSM were removed.
Exploring BDSM issues allows me to add an element of emotion that goes beyond regular sex. Sex, for a lot of us, has real emotional ramifications, and we’re never more physically vulnerable than when we take off our clothes, especially for the first time. When you add in things like handcuffs and blindfolds, the need for trust escalates and creates a very real need for intimacy.
You have to be able to talk about your fears, your likes, dislikes, things you definitely want to try, things you’d consider, things you’d never, ever do.
I almost always have a safe word in my novels, and often a separate word that means slow down a bit. My hero needs to be able to trust that my heroine will communicate with him if she’s starting to feel physically or emotionally overwhelmed, and my heroine has to know that the hero will absolutely all the time, respect her wishes if she is hurting or feeling vulnerable.
For me the addition of kink isn’t just about having the hero do things to the heroine, it’s about the journey they take together that leads to love.
The hot, steamy, get-me-an-ice-cube sex is only the icing on a totally delicious cake.
In my recent book, Claim, from Totally Bound, Kennedy Aldrich gets his story. The man intrigued me from the first time he walked onto the page, larger than life. He’s from a very wealthy family whereas most of my characters are self-made. But Kennedy’s been raised under tremendous pressure and there’s the expectation he’ll take over the family business and marry well—preferably to a proper lady who’s a Mayflower descendent.
I figured a lot of women would want to marry him and that he may be a bit wary of love, both from the numerous women who are attracted to his money, but also because his mother wants him to marry well. So what is more fun than pitting him against a lovely, intriguing woman who doesn’t want to marry him? Not only does Mackenzie not want to marry him, she flat-out refuses.
Kennedy is certainly not accustomed to women who tell him no. For the first time ever, a woman, a lovely submissive at that, flummoxes him.
There’s a little bit of me in Mackenzie Farrell. She’s been divorced, and the loss of her marriage devastated her. She’s promised herself she will never remarry. Also like me, she turns to business to heal, and now she’s reached the point where she’s doing quite well on her own. Again, like me, Mackenzie resolved to remain single.
That is until she is swept away by a very determined male. (And here’s part of my story. After a painful divorce, I spent almost fifteen years single. I was, honestly, quite happily single, like Mackenzie. Then a man, equally as determined as Kennedy, swept me off my feet. We were married me in a fun ceremony on the beach at dawn a few months ago—yep, beach balls and margarita machines included!)
Read Claim today and find out why Ms. Romantic Reads says, “Kennedy…knocked a few Doms off my book husband list.”
He won’t be satisfied until he claims her.
Kennedy Aldrich has perfected the art of dodging any romantic entanglement that will lead to marriage. That is until he sees Mackenzie Farrell at a BDSM gathering.
When they meet, he’s entranced by her intelligence and submission, not to mention her stunning good looks. For the first time, he has met a woman who captivates his interest on every level, someone he wants to share his life with.
Mackenzie is overwhelmed by Kennedy’s attentions. A failed marriage taught her to distrust men, and she’s vowed never to walk down the aisle again.
It takes all her resolve to resist the devilishly handsome Dominant. After all, the whole world knows of his legendary reputation with women. Every feminine instinct warns that this man will demand more than she can offer.
But she hasn’t counted on Kennedy’s determination to claim her and prove that love is worth any risk.
Sierra Cartwright has a confession…even when she was writing books for Harlequin/Silhouette, she was always pushing the boundaries of what the publisher would let her get away with! Her editors would return manuscripts with whole pages crossed through.
She’s always written romances, and she’s really found her passion with novels that include BDSM elements. There’s nothing she adores more than an alpha male…except for an equally strong heroine.
Winner of the 2013 Best BDSM Book of the Year award, Sierra was born in Manchester, England where she spent her early years traipsing through castles. As a girl, she moved to the Wild West, Denver, Colorado where the Rocky Mountains inspired her. Now, the internationally acclaimed author calls Galveston, Texas, home. She loves the way history blends with Southern manners (being called “sugar” is an experience unto itself) and rich pirate lore.