Thursday, 26 May 2016

Romancing the Word Event - Tamworth, Staffordshire, 11th June

Hi everyone,

I'm delighted to announce I'll be taking part in the following event on the 11th June:



On Saturday June 11th 2016 celebrate the wonderful world of romance with a selection of authors handpicked by Tamworth Literary Festival. Includes author talks and readings, a workshop and an informal meet the author event where you can have a chat and if you wish, purchase signed books. 

Entrance to the Meet the Author/Signing is FREE. The author talks, readings and workshop are priced at £3 each, or you can choose to pay £8 for the whole day. Events taking place at St Editha's Church and Tamworth Library.

For more information, check out the Facebook event page here: https://www.facebook.com/events/256966877969841/

I hope to see you there!
Lucy x

*****

Author Bio:


Lucy Felthouse is the award-winning author of erotic romance novels Stately Pleasures (named in the top 5 of Cliterati.co.uk’s 100 Modern Erotic Classics That You’ve Never Heard Of, and an Amazon bestseller) and Eyes Wide Open (winner of the Love Romances Café’s Best Ménage Book 2015 award, and an Amazon bestseller). Including novels, short stories and novellas, she has over 140 publications to her name. She owns Erotica For All, is book editor for Cliterati, and is one eighth of The Brit Babes. Find out more about her writing at http://lucyfelthouse.co.uk, or on Twitter and Facebook. You can also subscribe to her monthly newsletter at: http://eepurl.com/gMQb9

Tuesday, 24 May 2016

Janine Ashbless Writing Fantasy and Fairytale Erotica at Smut by the Sea!

Welcome Janine Ashbless, Erotic author extraordinaire to talk about her Smut by the Sea Workshop. There are still some tickets left so come and join us! 



Writing Fantasy and Fairytale Erotica

There’s never enough time to do everything you want, is there?

When I gave my talk at Eroticon 2015 on ‘Writing Fantasy and Fairytale Erotica,’ I spent so much time enthusing about why fantasy is such a good crossover with erotica that we ran out of time to do the writing exercises I’d prepared. And that’s a crying shame, isn’t it? No matter how eruditely I blather on and how stonkingly awesome my Powerpoint slides are, if writers aren’t actually getting stuck in to try the genre for themselves then it’s all a bit of a waste.



So I’m coming to this workshop at Smut by the Sea as a sort of practical spin-off from my original talk. I’m going to assume from the start that you want to write fantasy, paranormal and/or fairytale erotica. Let’s say you’ve seen a call for an anthology, say. You know what sort of sex you like writing about, that’s a given. But maybe you’re just stuck on the setting, or how to include magical creatures in a convincing manner, or how much world-building you need to fit in 5000 words. Or maybe you want to write Little Red Riding Hood but you think it’s been done a million times before and you’re looking for a way to give it your own twist.

I’m hoping in these workshops to help you find places to look that’ll kickstart your inspiration, your creativity, and your daring. I want to show you my fantasy plot cheat-codes. I want to get you writing!
We’ll still run out of time, of course J

xxx
Janine “I need to go buy a flipchart” Ashbless







Janine Ashbless is the author of three collections of short stories (Cruel Enchantment, Dark Enchantment, Fierce Enchantments) – all with fantasy, horror, paranormal and gothic themes. She’s also seen eight erotic novels in publication, with settings ranging from the Arabian Nights to fairytale mashup to contemporary vampire horror. Currently she’s writing two series: Lover’s Wheel is a quartet about English earth-magic and The Book of the Watchers is a dark romance/thriller about fallen angels.

She lives reasonably near to Scarborough.



Monday, 23 May 2016

Scarlet Ladies: Reclaiming Women's Sexuality Part 2




(Read Part One of this exciting interview on my blog, kdgrace.co.uk)

Welcome back to the second half of my interview with the awesome Scarlet Ladies. Several weeks ago, I had the privilege of being included on a panel on porn and female sexuality sponsored by the very lovely, very vibrant Jannette Davies and Sarah Beilfuss, who together are the Scarlet Ladies. You’ll recall from the first part of the interview, they have a plan for world conquest, which I think is well worth reiterating. Sarah says, it includes “empowering every women on this planet. We want to have an impact on shaping sex education in this country and every country. Basically we want to change views on how people think of female sexuality.”

The Scarlet Ladies host women only events in London to talk about sex with the aim of normalizing the conversation around female
sexuality, its problems, pains and pleasures.

Theirs is a plan, I can happily support, so I invited them to a Skype interview to share their plan with you.

When I ask what they see as the most difficult problem facing women sexually at present, they answer without hesitation that it is shame.

“Regardless of how sexual you might be,” Jannette says, “the stigma that causes the shame will always be there no matter where you are. Women who are a little more prudish, less ‘out there,’ they tend to look at the women who are more ‘out there’ and want to be like them, but because of shame, hold themselves back. That needs to be dealt in sex education.”

“That means raising our kids to stop that shaming in society,” Sarah says. “For example, something we grow up with, like ‘don’t touch yourself, only bad girls do that.’ When I saw women who really were ‘out there,’ I slut shamed them because of my own shame. Women hold a lot of shame,” she reflects. “Men get their bits out with no problems, most women wouldn’t. Because women are so ashamed and shamed, a lot of sexual violence is not being reported. It took two years to go to the police and report my rape because I was so ashamed.” For a moment she sits reflecting, then continues, “you do encounter people who really don’t know how to deal with that shame, and then when someone reacts badly you just want to paw through the ground and never reappear.”

“My experience with the police has been incredible,” she adds. “The Diamond Division, which deals exclusively with sexual violence at the MET police are incredible. This is a part of why it’s so important that women talk to each other about sex and help each other. If you have a good friend who doesn’t feel the shame that the victim feels, then it helps. We need to educate the police. We need to educate all of these people who are there for us.”

It became clear to me early in the interview that these two women are passionate about Scarlet Ladies. I wanted to know how being the Scarlet Ladies had changed their lives.


Sarah is quick to reply. “I’ve opened up so much. I don’t judge anyone for anything. I feel a lot more connected with my sexuality and owning that again. As a rape victim I felt it was something that was taken away from me. I sort of kept my sexuality separate from me. But that’s not a good way to live. You feel you’re not whole.”

“I feel a lot more justified, a lot more convicted in everything I do,” Jannette reflects. “I don’t need to explain anything. I couldn’t give a flying f*ck. I feel more assured about what I’m doing.” Then she adds, “obviously when you get questioned a lot, you question yourselves.”

At present Jannette and Sarah are working on a recourses page for their website, which they hope will be a hub of information and links that women can come to for anything. That page is not yet up, but will be soon. In the meantime, they’re getting very actively involved in any way they can. Sarah is taking part in a bodybuilding competition for charity to support rape victims; next year there will be an art exhibition for an FGM charity -- a charity that supports women right here in the UK. Sarah informs me that over 60,000 women are at risk of female genital mutilation in London alone. By the actions of the Scarlet Ladies, they hope to raise the profile.

With so much excitement and vibrancy and so many things going on, I wondered what Sarah and Jannette consider the defining moment of Scarlet Ladies so far.

Sarah is quick to chime in. “When we decided to do this full time, that was the defining moment. The bodybuilding was already in the works because I thought my mission was overcoming burnout and chronic fatigue. My biggest achievement was not overcoming illness, but realizing the thing that made me ill was repeated sexual attacks against me. I decided to go into Scarlet Ladies full time, so I changed the charity of the bodybuilding competition to a rape crisis charity,” then she adds, “Something I still struggle with is publically talking about my struggles with being a rape victim.”

Jannette says, “the defining moment was this year at our first event on female orgasm in February. It was when the women left, how they felt about the whole experience. A woman from the Telegraph reviewed the event. She said Scarlet Ladies were like pioneers in regards of normalizing female sexuality and getting the message out there that we’re all normal women. For me it was basically the feedback we got from that female orgasm event. Just that validation in the Telegraph, a huge nationwide newspaper writing about it because they thought it was important.”

After my experience of speaking on the porn and female sexuality panel and seeing that the women who attended in the upper room of a pub that night were more than happy to linger on long after the panel had actually concluded to discuss the topic, I wondered what other events the Scarlet Ladies are planning this year?

Panel Talks:
Of course there will be more events panel talks, which are always a good opportunity to talk and  share openly about the chosen topic.


Workshops:
To introduce women to something new.

The Circle:
More intimate events specifically targeted to women who want to deal with their sexual concern.

Salons:
Very adult sex education, hands on, for people comfortable with nudity, pussy pleasure, getting familiar with the vagina. The Salons are practical work.

Retreats:
A whole day to come together with all different themes. The first is about body image. (Brit Babes’ own Victoria Blisse will be helping with that retreat.) It’ll be a workshop, coaching circle, getting women reconnected with their body, ‘falling in love with your body.’ There’ll be a ‘Me time’ room, which is a ‘do not disturb’ space.

The Scarlet experience:
An introduction to each of the new events that are being added on.

All of the Scarlet Ladies events will always centre around female sexuality.


Wow! After an hour of amazing conversation with these two wonderful women, I ask them what their ultimate goal is for Scarlet Ladies.

“Empowering every women on this planet,” Sarah answers quickly. “Touching as many women as we can. We want to pass that on. We want to have an impact on shaping sex education in this country and every country. Basically we want to changes views of how people think of female sexuality.”

Jannette adds, “One of the keys is talking and openly discussing. There’ll be twitter chats once a month; there’ll be SLT Sundays where
anyone can join in on the conversation. This incorporates men too. Also we’re planning a couple’s retreat where the focus will be for the partner to come along and learn about female sexuality.

“We want to open up that discussion because the more you talk about something the more you start to understand and the more you’ll listen. In August we’ve been invited to Sexhibition to talk about female orgasm. One workshop will be open to women only. We will discuss fetish as a woman’s thing. Women in the fetish world, is the second workshop.”

Jannette continues. “One of the things we do at Scarlet Ladies is we put women back in charge so women can communicate with their partner what they need. We need to empower women to do that educating and pass it on to their partners and realize that our sexuality is our responsibility.”

I say good-bye to Sarah and Jannette with my head buzzing from the excitement and the enthusiasm they both embody. I certainly plan to attend more of the Scarlet Ladies events in the future. Please be sure to check out their website for more about their mission and for all upcoming events.







Thursday, 19 May 2016

Fiction: Masturbation or Foreplay?


Is writing fiction verbal masturbation, or is it foreplay leading to the HEA-gasm we all hope for at the end of a novel? I suppose I started thinking about this question because it’s Masturbation Month, which is well worth celebrating no matter what month is it really. While the lines between literary masturbation and fictional foreplay may be less clearly drawn for erotica writers than for writers of other types of fiction, I think the question is valid no matter what genre we write. For that matter, I would be willing to bet that our lovely readers, if asked, could also point out a few novels they’d read in which they felt the author was simply having a word-wank  and that the tale had nothing to do with the reader at all. For me, those are usually the books in which I make it through a couple of chapters and then decided to leave the authors to their private time because clearly the novel is intended for the author’s pleasure and has nothing to do with me. 

Though having said that, even I sometimes force my way through the author’s jerk-off session because I’m a bit of a voyeur, and I can’t help but wonder as I look on – embarrassed for them, yet somehow still intrigued, if I’m maybe practicing some of the same self-indulgent feel-good techniques.

So when is a novel a wank session instead of foreplay that leads to serious lovemaking with the reader? Well, one sure sign for me is when absolutely everyone is madly in love with the totally perfect, completely awesome, hero or heroine from whose point of view the story is told and who is always more than happy to share with the reader just how hot and perfect they are. 

Another dead giveaway to an authorial hand-job is when the hero or heroine has absolutely no personality at all and yet everyone STILL is madly in love with him/her. Take out name of character and insert name of author. You got it -- fictional diddling for the author’s benefit. 

It’s also evident that someone’s been rubbing one out on the written page when a scene goes on and on and on ad nauseum, when every little detail is right there in black and white for the reader to wade through. TMI isn’t just about sex and bodily functions. TMI is a complete description of a character’s clothes, right down to underwear, make-up and nail polish. Pa-leese, leave something to the imagination. In short, anything that breaks the pace for the reader so that the writer can wax descriptive or show off his/her stunning word craft is verbal masturbation.

Perhaps the opposite side of the same wank is when the writer talks above the reader using jargon and words that the average person would never use in conversation. I’ve certainly never been impressed with someone trying to convince me they’re more intelligent that I am. They might be, and that’s fine, but it’s not what I want to see in the fiction I’m reading. Such fictional self-love is off-putting to readers. 

A similar technique for fictional flicking the bean is the never-ending, angsting, hand wringing navel-gaze. These usually happen when the heroine or hero tries to figure out just exactly what the love interest meant by that look, that touch, that kiss, that slap on the arse, that sideways glance at another woman. Gasp! Way too often these little inner wanderings bore readers and pull them out of the story while the self-indulgent writer plays with him/herself.

I like to hope that I do my verbal masturbation in a journal or in some playful document for my eyes only. I like to think
that, as a writer of fiction, I’m good at fictional foreplay, I’m good at heating my readers up, keeping them hot, bothered and needing until I can get them off with the HEA they’ve been panting for and have so richly earned by the time they get to the final page. I think that should be every fiction writer’s goal -- lots of hot, juicy, teasing, tantalizing foreplay followed by a mind-blowing word-gasm – the money shot so to speak. 

That means that the hero or heroine is unselfconscious, and their lives exist with all scars, flaws and foibles intact; that means that through their lives and behaviours the reader will come to love them anyway, even if she doesn’t like them much at times. In good fictional foreplay, the characters and the plot are integral, and they feed on each other; they’re not a construct to get the writer off, but a unit that works as enticing, delicious, demanding foreplay leading to the HEA-gasm that’s well worth the build-up.

As I write this, I wonder if maybe writing erotica has seriously affected my brain, that I should think in terms of literary masturbation, HEA-gasms and word-wanking, but if it has, then perhaps it’s not such a bad thing. I am, after all a firm believer that Freud was right and it IS all about sex.

Wednesday, 18 May 2016

Fancy some Smut by the Sea?



Then join Brit Babe, author and event co-ordinator extraordinaire Victoria Blisse at her Smut event at Scarborough library on the 28th May from 10am-5pm.

Smut Events are fun, safe, inclusive days out when our community of erotica writers, sex bloggers. talented performers, readers, geeks & those that love them get together to socialize, exchange ideas and inspire one another. 

On the day there will be a host of fun, smutty things to enjoy including interactive workshops, reading slams, a brand new incarnation known as Dr Scribbly and much, much more. You even get your buffet lunch thrown in for free!



In the erotic marketplace you’ll be able to meet event sponsors Godemiche and get to grips with their amazing handmade silicone dildos, have a go on the world famous erotic tombola and win sex toys galore, check out amazingo.co.uk and treat yourself or pick up a book from the book stall and get your copy signed by the attending authors.

Tickets are now available from just £12 (excluding paypal charges) and there are a few limited author and promo tickets left for those who want to bring their books and promotional items on the day. Pick up your ticket at Eventbrite now or if you’d like to arrange an alternative way to pay other than paypal contact Victoria Blisse at victoria @ victoriablisse. co. uk (no spaces). As Host with the most she will be able to answer all your questions too.



10:00am
DOORS OPEN
10:15am
Introduction from Victoria Blisse
Welcome to our fourth annual Smut by the Sea event!
10:20am
Reading Slam #1
Featuring: 
Victoria BlisseAnna SkySlave NanoKev Blisse
11am
Morning Break
11:15am
Jennifer Denys presents “Sex in sci fi stories”
Jennifer Denys has written several sci-fi erotic romances and in the process had to research a weightless sex scene – have any astronauts ‘done it’? Come to Jen’s workshop and find out! The session will briefly cover the history of sexuality in sci-fi literature, look at modern depictions and you will get a chance to come up with your own ideas for sex scenes in the future (we want some really fun, innovative ideas!)
12noon
LUNCH!!!
1pm
Anna Sky from Sexy Little Pages presents “Shortcuts to Self-Publishing”
Anna will take you on a whistle-stop tour on how to get more out of your publishing. Find out how to reach more sales platforms with little extra effort, how to use free services to help readers find you more easily and tips and tricks for spreading your new releases further afield.
1:45pm
Check out the Erotic Market Break
2pm
Reading Slam #2
Featuring: 
K D GraceCharlie J ForrestDylan McEwanJennifer Denys
2:45pm
Bing-Oh-Behave!
Eyes down on those lovely legs elevens for a game of purple prose bingo!
3pm
Janine Ashbless presents “Writing Fantasy Erotica”
So you want to write a fantasy, fairy tale, SF or paranormal erotic story … but you don’t know where to start? You’re wondering where to find fresh ideas? This interactive workshop with Janine Ashbless focuses on where to find your inspiration, and how to turn centuries-old plots into startling new stories.
3:45pm
Afternoon Tea Break
4pm
Dr. Scribbly with performer Bea Noir
You get to watch amazing performances designed to inspire you on the spot. Then you have a certain amount of time to write something about the performance. Anything you like, a poem, a flash fiction, or even simply a description of what you saw. Its totally upto you, no boxes, no cages, just your words.
There will be fun competitions to take part in and opportunities to win fabulous prizes.
5pm
So long, and thanks for all the Smut!
Another seaside adventure draws to a close, as we say our goodbyes for another year xxx
5:30pm
DOORS CLOSE